Choosing Joy

Quick tips & action steps to choose & practice Joy 

1- Change is the ONLY unchanging fact in life, in life there're different seasons: Winter, autumn, spring & summer, suffering won’t last forever.. Remind yourself by saying "It is only a season.. I will continue breathing in the hope that the best is yet to come"

2- Falling or experiencing a loss at a certain stage in your life doesn't mean you've lost all the fight, it is only a round.

3- If you kept worrying while travelling on the road; you'll miss enjoying the journey. Relax & enjoy the ride until you reach your destination.

4- There is more meaning in life than just depending on relationships for happiness, Finding the real meaning of your life can fulfill your deepest needs, then successful relationships will follow.

5- Your pain is yours.. your pain is unique:

 every person is unique ..so is his pain. .u cannot compare the pain of one person to another ...no one can alleviate your pain except you, only you can drink the cup

6- Pleasure or happiness is not the purpose itself. But it is the result of living a purposeful life, pursuing pleasure leads to a miserable life

7- Joy is a skill that needs to be learnt… Joy is a choice.. Follow facts not emotions

Studies has shown that this is a skill that kids can learn how to be joyful from age 7 to 12,  as we teach them how to enjoy doing their assignments & enjoy everything in life instead of just finishing their chores 

8- Choosing your reaction is a freedom when facing uncontrollable circumstances, 

 suffer can lead you either to:  bitterness or a better understanding of yourself & life, it is your choice either to be harsh on others or more soft & understanding & compassionate to their pain , the choice is always yours 

9- One of the greatest lessons you can learn while in pain: is to learn how to adapt, it is not yielding in a negative submissive way, but to skillfully choosing to be resilient & endure pain in a creative way, looking to the hard circumstances with the eye of a student who is seeking to learn a new lesson, the eye of the researcher who is seeking to discover his inner resources.

10 - In times of stress & pressure it is important to remain focused on the purpose of your life, not on the obstacles itself, believing that each struggle is a stepping stone that will empower your success in your next level.

11- Helping other in times of pain can help to alleviate the intensity of your pain, just make sure also to keep the balance by having time to sit with yourself. 

12- Art & nature reliefs the suffering of the mind. Make sure not to have time for meditation , reading & to use your talents (drawing, singing…etc).

13- Do not be shy to ask for help, at times the best we can do to ourselves is to seek the help of a counselor & a spiritual guide who can help us see better.

@ Jackie.Y.G